Venus opposite Lilith (orb 1.5°) puts the two planets face to face, with visible back-and-forth or tension. The orb is very tight; this describes a stable character pattern more than a passing reaction.
Here, Venus in Gemini in House 10 brings desire, taste, relationship, and attraction into House 10 (vocation, status, responsibility, and public image), with Gemini style (curiosity, language, movement, and mental adaptation); Lilith in Sagittarius in House 4 brings pure ideal, absolute demand, fascination, and refusal of compromise into House 4 (roots, privacy, and inner foundation), with Sagittarius style (expansion, travel, belief, and the search for meaning).
Concrete conflict: this aspect opposes the desire for harmony to Lilith's absolute ideal, fascination, or refusal of love that feels too ordinary. Visible angle: Venus near the Midheaven (orb 2.6°) and Lilith near the IC (orb 1.2°) touch angles; this aspect is easier to notice through social role, reputation, career, and public image; also through private base, family roots, and intimate psychological climate. The house conflict is between House 10 (vocation, status, responsibility, and public image) and House 4 (roots, privacy, and inner foundation); pressure in one field tends to reactivate the other.